Jude Law Becoming Father For Fourth Time: In a relationship, whose responsibility is it to take care of birth control?

Reading the news that Jude Law, hot English actor whom looks even hotter in the 2004 drama, Closer, with Clive Owen, Julia Roberts and Natalie Portman, is to become a father for the fourth time. As news outlets emerged with details on the pregnancy with a woman he was once in a relationship with is fascinating to me. Especially when you read the news online and then read the comments posted after the fact. Many shout out, "Use a condom!" or "Heard of a vasectomy?" Others shout back, "Why wasn't she on the pill?" or "What an opportunist!"

Jude Law has three children from his previous marriage with Sadie Frost. The couple divorced in 2003 after admitting he had an affair with the couple's nanny. This time around, he will become a father again with aspiring model/actress Samantha Burke.

"After he left, she found out she was pregnant. She tried to reach him, but the cell phone number she had for him was a temporary number that he only used in New York while filming" the source said. The two met while he was shooting Guy Ritchie's version of Sherlock Holmes, which was filmed in New York last winter.

Whose responsibility is it to take care of the birth control? Should the woman make sure she is protected or should men carry the brunt of this decision?

Maybe both should think about the responsibilty before rushing into bed when lust calls?

Taylor Momsen wears this for her Sweet Sixteen?

Taylor Momsen wears this for her Sweet Sixteen? I would hate for my teen to take fashion advice from this star.

Be a Good Neighbor and Get the Good Neighbor Pass at Colonial Williamsburg!

If you are a resident of Williamsburg, James City County or the Bruton Distric of York County and do not have a Good Neighbor pass to Colonial Williamsburg, you need to ask yourself why not? For $10 adult pricing and free for children up to 18 years old, it's the most economical way to enjoy this beautiful city. Others travel here from other regions of the country to explore our backyard and have to pay upwards of $50 to enjoy the sights. For $10 a year you could enjoy and share in the history of what makes this city so unique. You should be ashamed of yourself by not supporting the reason this area has thrived for so long.

Yesterday, I took my girls to explore this area. I am ashamed to say that this was my first trip to my "backyard." After purchasing my Good Neighbor pass and posing for my identification card that will allow me to enter any of the historic areas and museums of Colonial Williamsburg, we headed over to the Governor's Palace. We toured the inside of this palace and tried to imagine living at the time before The Revolutionary War. How many swords can one home have? See for yourself. After finishing up the tour inside the home, we traveled the gardens and got lost in the Maze at the Governor’s Palace, saw how they kept ice before freezers were invented and ran up and down the steps alongside the canal bank. I want to bring a picnic lunch and eat here.

For more information follow this link. I see opinions in the local paper all the time about supporting tourism and this is your first step as a resident of this area! Want to see all of you out there. I'm the blonde in large sunglasses!

What's your take on The Big Bad Wolf being torn down?

We are so saddened to see The Big Bad Wolf being shut down at Busch Gardens! With it being the only roller coaster that a child 42" can ride, what will my youngest daughter ride next year? Though it was the first coaster ride she rode and she was quite shocked after the fact, she's loves it now. With season ticket's to the theme park, it is a destination we frequent and The Big Bad Wolf is always on the tour.

Let's hear from some of your experiences at Busch Gardens and how you feel about the retirement of this historic coaster.

What's your signature scent?

This past weekend I hung out with my girlfriend for a girl's night. We had a blast hanging by the pool during the afternoon, soaking in the rays and reading the latest gossip in our trashy tabloids. Afterwards we returned to her house to shower before going out for the evening. When I was dressed and clean with my favorite lotion applied on my body, her friend was visiting and asked what was the scent. She loved its smell.

Bath and Body Works makes this Wild Honeysuckle Body Cream. It has the smell you recall when walking down the street as a kid and you would see this flowering bush. You would want to rush and taste it's sweet juices. It reminds me of childhood and of a summer's day.

Do you have a signature scent? What does it remind you of?

K-Fed is Well-Fed!

At a California sporting event, onlookers and celebrities alike were shocked by the presence of this man: Kevin Federline. It seems that since his break from popstar Britney Spears, K-Fed has become Well-Fed!

While other participated at the Ryan Sheckler X Games Celebrity Classic, Federline sipped cocktails and smoked cigarettes with girlfriend Victoria Prince while sitting on a shaded patio.

Shar Jackson, mother to two of K-Fed's children shared her view on his plumpness. "It's daddy weight!" she told Usmagazine.com at the time. "When you are a full time parent, sometimes you can't focus on you. If gaining a few pounds is your only problem, life's not too bad!"

How do I get more help cleaning my house?

With summer here and the kids always here, my house has turned into a war zone. Remnants of the snack eaten after lunch litter the family room carpet. Barbie houses designed by the girls fill the downstairs den and could never be thought of being picked up because "It took so long to put it together". Puzzles that have been put together are not allowed back in their boxes because they want to enjoy looking at their hard work in physical form. Clothing that has been dirtied from outside play waits in line by the washing machine that never seems empty. Wet towels from the beach or the pool need to be constantly washed and dried. Pens, pencils and colors that were missed when the girls "cleaned up" seem to find their way into your bare feet while making the beds or when carrying a load of laundry.

I've had it!

My mother always had a day of the week when we cleaned: a time to dust, a time to fold, a time to empty the dishwasher. Although it was only her and I for many of the years of my childhood and not much mess ensued, we did our duty to keep the house as clean as we could find time for.

Last night, as it tried to relax on my back porch, my youngest daughter wanted to play cards. As I look around at the shambles my house had become since summer vacation began, my blood pressure started to rise. From somewhere deep down, a fire was beginning to burn and at some point my voice was destined to get loud-- real loud. I tried to calm myself down by getting up out of the chair I just settled into, after cleaning up some mess destined to be in my sight, and began busying myself again. Attacking the mound of books sitting on the kitchen table, she came at me again.

"Mommy, will you play cards with me." This is all it took for me to snap!

I had enough. While every other person in the house watched TV, made a paper craft with glitter, or found a way to stain the carpet in the den by some new, different way, it came. My voice had found its volume and the attention in the house was all on mom. By the time the cleaning extravaganza was over and my notebook was in front of me, I asked myself a question.

Why didn't we have one day of the week we cleaned the house? This would be the best option in getting everyone involved in the clean-up of process in the home we all shared. This could lessen my load, I thought. As I sat with my notebook, I became interested in what chores other parents have for their children.

I have tried allowing my oldest to unload the dishwasher and something always seems to get broken. Folding clothes is another chore that never seems to find a bidder. How about putting the clothes away? I feel as if it's more difficult to get this job done than pulling teeth.

What's your cleaning routine at your house? Is this a weekly things, need by need basis or maybe it never gets done?

How about your children's ages? How does this affect what they can and cannot do?

Help!!

Yorktown Beach: Jellyfish Nets Needed!

Since moving to Williamsburg last August, Yorktown Beach has been a favorite family destination. We have exposed family and friends to the shops, dining experiences and beaches available only twenty minutes from my front door. With inlets roped off for children to swim and wade around in, it's the perfect family spot on a hot day.

Last week as the kids moped around the house exclaiming how bored they were, my ears had finally had enough. We packed our bags, grabbed the beach chairs and the sand buckets for an afternoon of fun only to be met with a beach infested by jellyfish. The children braved the waters only to be met by stinging tentacles and cries of pain. Within a matter of moments, our fun day trip was met with pain and a pleading to go home.

It's time Yorktown invests money on purchasing nets designed to keep jellyfish out of the swimming areas. If people and families come to the beach for a day of fun but wind up in the emergency room from jellyfish stings, this beach will no longer be thought of as a destination spot to cool off on hot days. The businesses that have invested money at the Yorktown Riverwalk Landing will see a decrease in traffic if these nets are not purchased for the safety of the tourists and locals alike. Instead of coming for the day to participate in Yorktown's rich history and beauty, residents and tourists may begin to see Jamestown Beach as a less painful option.

Jellyfish invasions are not on the the decrease but on the increase and it's time to make bold actions now, not later.

Should President Obama have had to apologize to the Cambridge Police Department?

When Henry Louis Gates Jr. cried to the media last week on his arrest by the Cambridge Police Department as being racist, for a moment I thought The United States of America might explode into a race riot. He stated, "This is what happens to black men in America." For years, race has been used as a tool to cry in anger over situations that many deem unjust. I will not go backwards and discuss how the treatment of certain cultures were mistreated in certain times. I will only speak of it in a day when a man of color rules The White House.

Let's take a look at the scene:

On July 16th, 2009

A neighbor of Henry Louis Gates Jr. called 911 about a supposed break in across the street. She saw a man continually "wedging his shoulder into the front door as to pry the door open,"

When officers arrived, an officer ordered the man to identify himself, but Gates refused, according to the report. Gates began calling the officer a racist and said repeatedly, "This is what happens to black men in America."

Officers then tried to calm down the 58-year-old Harvard professor, who responded, "You don't know who you're messing with," according to the police report. Also in the report, the officer most in question, Sgt. James Crowley asked to speak with Gates outside and then the professor responded, "I'll speak with your mama outside."

Many of Gates' African-American colleagues believe his arrest is part of a pattern of racial profiling in Cambridge, said Allen Counter, who has taught neuroscience at Harvard for 25 years.

"We do not believe that this arrest would have happened if professor Gates was white," Counter said.

Gates Talks With Soledad O'Brien on a CNN Special

Gates said on Wednesday that although charges were dropped, he will keep the issue alive. He said to O'Brien during a special on CNN that included Roland Martin in the crowd, "This is not about me; this is about the vulnerability of black men in America,"

Obama's Press Conference Wednesday

President Obama was asked to respond to the controversial arrest of distinguished Harvard Professor Henry Louis Gates Jr at a press conference on Wednesday. He responded that Gates "is a friend, so I may be a little biased." Obama argued that the "Cambridge police acted stupidly,"

Sgt. James Crowley Responds

Crowley has said he would not apologize. The police incident report states that Crowley twice provided his name to Gates, who subsequently asked for it two more times.

Cambridge Police Commissioner Robert Haas said he "deeply regrets" the arrest but stands by the procedures his department followed."I trust [Crowley's] judgment implicitly. He is a stellar officer," He praises the Cambridge police department by saying "very proud about its diversity within this community and how hard we've worked over the years to build a strong, solid relationship [between] the department and the community."

Numerous police officers, including African-Americans, have spoken up on Crowley's behalf and portrayed him as a good and fair officer. Crowley, who is white, had once been chosen by a black police officer to teach a police academy course on ways to avoid racial profiling.

A Call for the President's Apology

Dennis O'Connor, the president of Cambridge Police Superior Officers Association and police unions across America urged the president to apologize to members of the Cambridge Police Dpt. for stating they acted stupidly in the arrest of Gates. O'Connor also said he was saddened the president would express publicly his opinion on the case before he knew the details of the case.

The President Apologizes

President Obama said today, he spoke with the police officer who arrested the Harvard professor and told the officer he did not mean to malign the Cambridge Police Department. The president also acknowledged his words "helped to contribute to ratcheting" up the situation when he criticized Sgt. James Crowley.

Oh, I severely hope one day no person of race, sex, gender, religion, creed will the use the word racism. I want it to die so we stop worrying about bringing past hurts to the surface. It's a new time. Look who's in The White House! If we could all come together instead of trying to separate our differences, imagine what we can do!

Was Obama out of line to apologize to the Cambridge Police Department?

Jon Gosselin becomes a reason a woman must quit her job! It must be true love!

Goodness, goodness me! Just when you think Jon Gosselin couldn't get anymore press, he does it again. Star Senior Reporter, Kate Major has resigned citing a conflict of interest from her duties as a reporter because of her blossoming relationship with Jon Gosselin. Could this attention seeking father of eight get anymore press?

Tuesday night, Jon and Kate (no, not his soon to be ex-wife Kate: try and keep up here...) munched on dinner in the Hamptons with Michael Lohan, Lindsay's dad, and Bravo reality star Jill Zare.

"I think it's authentic," Zarin told Usmagazine.com of Gosselin's relationship with Major. "I think it's fast. I think it happened very quickly."

All the while Hailey Glassman, Jon's supposed 22-year old girlfriend, learned from PEOPLE today about the new happy couple. She states: "That's news to me," "I still love Jon and Jon loves me," a teary Glassman said.

Jon is on the prowl, the world has been made aware of this, but is this not hurting his image more and more. He can't stick with one woman for more than a couple of days? It reminds me of the women out there who think when they date and fall in love with a married man, he would never the same thing to her. He will leave his home for her and his wandering eye will never wander again because she is the supreme bee. Wake up women!

Would you consider quitting your job over a man?

Why Not Curse at Your Children?

While my children and I walked to our car after a long day at our favorite waterpark, I noticed a couple with their children walking back to theirs. I smiled as we scooted past them. As we walked on, I overheard the mother tell one of the boys, "I'm gonna kick your a*% when we get back to the car." Now I am unsure of what the boy did to cause his mother to respond in such away, but she didn't seem that angry. In fact a moment later, a small girl came up and asked, "Momma, what did you say you were gonna do when we get back to the car?" She was laughing. The mother didn't seem as if she was about to blow her lid and start hounding on the boy.

As I thought about how dreadful that sounded to my ears, coming from mother to son, I wondered in certain circumstances if this a from of verbal play? Could this sentence have been misconstrued by me? Could this woman use profanity as a form of loving affection to her children?

I'm not a mother that uses profanity that often. I will curse sometimes if I have physically hurt myself but other than that, I try and watch my language, especially around children. I'm not a mother that shouts curse words at her children in the manner of being ugly and never in a playful way.

Is profanity always used in a non-loving way or can it be a term of endearment?

Michelle Obama's New Hair Cut: Yay or Nay?

Yesterday during a celebration for country music at the White House, Michelle Obama showed the world her new look. What do you think? Yay or Nay?

What's your clothing expiration date?

Recently on a trip to the beach, while my husband was working from the house, I went shopping. I wanted to pick up a sand dollar and a starfish for a craft project I am working on. The perfect place to purchase these items are in tacky gift shop you normally avoid going into. I quickly made my way through the store searching for the items I needed, wondering aloud at some of the items for sale in the store. Do people actually decorate there home with pirate ashtrays, blue glass dolphins or picture frames that scream OBX?

With my sand dollar and starfish in hand, I was ready to escape the trap when my cell phone rang. It was my mother. As I spoke with her on the phone advising her against going for the crap camera or the imitation iPod for my oldest daughter's birthday, I wandered into the clothing section. Like a diamond in the rough situated in between loud T-shirts and shorts with Outer Banks posted on the butt, a dress. A cute dress at that. I had to try it on. After I tried it on, I had to buy it. I had to wear it.

And I wore it... For three days, I lived in this dress until, maybe... it could stand on it's own? I know, disgusting. I did wash it, but when it was ready to wear again, it found it's way back on my body.

Do you ever get away with wearing something more than one day? Like, you put it on at night and since you didn't go anywhere or see anyone you knew, you wear it again?

What's your clothing expiration date? You think it's gross to wear the same outfit twice?

What is your breaking point in a relationship?

Okay, we all know I have a terrible habit of a little celebrity interest. Sue me. Who doesn't love picking up a UsWeekly or a People? Who doesn't enjoy the Huffington Post or NY Post: Page Six anyone? It's part of the American right to read trash.

Even men could be held for the crime. They may enjoy it in the privacy of their own bathroom instead of flaunting the glossy pages at the beach or the pool as women do, but they read it.

Samantha Ronson and Lindsay Lohan have hit the skids again? I thought this was old news. Are they not always fighting/breaking up/getting back together? It seems Samantha Ronson came home after what must have been a late night dinner with ex-Soprano actress, Drea de Matteo. The pair returned to Ronson's house at 5 a.m. An hour later, Miss. Lohan shows up banging on the front door of Ronson's home, screaming and yelling, accusing Ronson of being a "liar." To end the fight, Ronson threw a bag of Lindsay's clothes out the front door.

Thankfully, most people do not have to have their lives taped for the world to see, but how much is enough in a relationship before you reach your breaking point? Should Lindsay and Samantha call it quits and try to find a way to stay away from each other? At some point in a unhealty relationship you have to walk away in order to find your sanity, right? My breaking point with this story is now.

What is your breaking point when it comes to a relationship?

When is enough, enough in a relationship?

Can Facebook Make You Skinny?

With social networking sites such as MySpace and Facebook on the rise, more people are being allowed into your personal space on a daily basis. With status updates, uploading of pictures and wall posts on the rise, other people you know and have known throughout your life are able to check up on you and your family with more frequency than ever before.

Before Facebook and other social networking sites, many people only fretted about their weight before going to their class reunions. Remember Romy and Michele's Class Reunion? Before returning to visit with their "friends" from high school, Romy and Michele worked their butts off in the gym trying to fit into smaller sized clothing. With the ability to peer into other people's lives on a daily basis, are we becoming more aware of our weight?

We are no longer available on a need to know basis. On a daily basis our looks are scrutinized by those we have invited into our social circle. Are Facebook and other social networking sites making people skinnier than before? Could the use of social sites actually make us more aware of our weight?

Top 5 Worst Times to be Dumped

Breakups are never fun but a reality. Recently Jessica Simpson was dumped by long time boyfriend, Tony Romo, the day before her 29th birthday. With a huge themed party planned, this had to be embarrassing to say the least. Today, we learn that San Antonio Spur player, Richard Jefferson, called off his wedding hours before the ceremony was to take place. Though breaking up is hard to do, there are times when it's just downright mean.

Top 5 Worst Times to be Dumped

Number 5: Christmas The presents have been bought. The tree trimmed and the eggnog served. The family is excited you are bringing home someone special and BAM!!! You're through. Instead of kissing under the mistletoe with your babe, you are crying into your pillow at night while caring less about what Santa brought you.

Number 4: Birthday Celebrating your birthday was supposed to be an exciting night of drinks and dinner with friends and your beau, but instead you find yourself single, breaking down and slobbering into your Appletini. Not a nice way to turn a year older.

Number 3: You find out you're sick: Real sick Coming home from the doctor's office with horrible news on your health's condition, your beau seems sympathetic holding you and comforting you on how it will all be alright. Afterwards you notice they have seemed distant, not returning your phone calls or making plans as much as usual. Just as you are beginning treatment on repairing your health, a phone call rocks your world. "It's not you , it's me". Nice.

Number 2: Someone close to you dies You knew your mother had been sick for awhile but the news of her death still shocks you to the core. Needing a shoulder to wail on, you call your significant other. They seem as distraught as you until when you need them the most, attending her funeral, something has come up and maybe a break is order for the relationship. Really sweet.

Number 1: At the altar Months of preparing and planning your wedding can be an exciting and stressful time but you think once this is all over, it will be back to normal in your relationship. Rings will be exchanged and a flight to the sea will be your reward in dealing with the pressures of wedding planning for the last couple of months. Dressed in your beautiful dress or tux waiting to see your loved one walking towards you, a stir in the crowd. Cold feet has claimed another couple. Awesome.

Is pot becoming more acceptable than cigarettes?

It seems more and more nowadays, cigarette smoking is going by the wayside. It kills you, makes your teeth stain, your clothes stink and gives nonsmokers the ability to give the "eat crap and die look," faster than taking a shooter at a nightclub. If the hike in price of the packs of twenty, thin, tobacco filled sticks doesn't get you, cancer will.

Growing up as a child, I remember everyone smoking. They smoked at work, in the car, at parties, in the bathroom... the list goes on and on. Children could even be sent down the road to pick up a pack of cigarettes for their parents. Choosing to smoke was the rite of passage from childhood to adulthood. Or so it seemed...

In college, smoking was still seen as something cool to do. I can warrant even today in high school's across the country, a pack of girls and guys are lighting up to make their image more appealing. In college though, smoking pot was the "cooler" to do than smoke cigarettes. Groups of kids I knew only smoked pot and left the cigarettes alone. Cigarettes were become less popular too be seen toting around in your pocket or handbag. Rolling papers and crumpled sandwich bags of weed were the newest label for "coolness."

With society's push, along with the federal government and insurance companies help, smoking has become expensive and repulsive. Pot on the other hand has been given a new look through government and the older generation. We now no longer believe pot is as harmful as once believed and many question whether or not it is as harmful as tobacco. State after state have begun putting on their voting ballots legalization in some form or another of this plant. It's as if we are all wondering when it will be legal not if it will become legal.

Will pot be more acceptable than cigarettes? Will we rather our children smoke marijuana than tobacco at some point?

Ken and Barbie call it quits: Did he like her better as the dumb blonde?

Jessica Simpson and Tony Romo have called it quits after two years of dating. A source close to the couple states they Tony broke up with Jessica a night before her 29th birthday, July 1oth. The theme of the party was Ken and Barbie.

Jessica Simpson has recently signed on to do the reality show, The Price of Beauty. With a friend, Jessica scours the country in search of what people perceive as beautiful. She will even attempt some of the things people do in order to become more beautiful. With football season kicking off very soon and the pressure Tony Romo will be under especially when dealing with The Cowboys owner, Jerry Jones, could the pressures of careers become to much?

In better times, Jessica told Glamour magazine, "He reintroduced me to myself. I thought that I had to be deeper, more profound and more artsy. You change with the guys you date."

I thought I had to be deeper, more profound and artsy? You change with the guys you date? He reintroduced my to myself? To me this sounds like Tony Romo liked her to be the ditsy blonde we have all come to loathe instead of a woman searching to become a better person.

Kate Picnics With Kids While Jon Vacations in France With Girlfriend: Who's having more fun here?

While Kate Gosselin picnics with her children in rural Pennsylvania, her soon to be ex-husband is spotted holding hands with his 23-year-old girlfriend aboard Ed Hardy designer Christian Audigier's yacht, Saturday in St. Tropez, France.

Kate Gosselin has spoken on how she wants "peace" for her children. Jon Gosselin has stated, "I'm only 32 years old. I don't know what's going to happen." He has also been quoted as "excited" about this next chapter in his life.

My mother and father divorced when I was eight. I watched as the duties of my mother doubled into being both parents. She worked full-time. Then she would rush home to make dinner for me and try and spend as much quality time she could before exhaustion set in. Without my father around during much of the week and only spending every other weekend with me, much of the parenting of me fell heavily on her shoulders. While he was away attending this party and that party and then off on hunting trips with his buddies, the presence he held as my father faded to a man whom saw me when he "could."

Many women involved in relationships with men that end with children in the picture, become the sole provider of the well being of the children. In 2005, the single parent family statistics show that of these, 84 % of the custodial parents are mothers, while fathers make up the remaining 16 % of single custodial parents. More that one in four families is headed by a single parent, with three out of four of these being single mothers.

Looking at Jon and Kate Gosselin, while she stays at home playing and nurturing her children, Jon is off gallivanting in the tropics with a new lady friend.

In relationships where children are involved, when a type of break occurs in the relationship do you feel that most times, the women are the ones that have to deal with the responsibilities of raising children more than the man? Do men come out easier from a divorce with children than the woman?

Is that President Obama checking out an underage girl?

This week while attending the G8 Summit in Italy, where the focus is supposed to be on oil prices, the global economy and climate change, The Leader of the Free World was caught eyeing a 16 year old Brazilian activist for UNICEF. It seems the man next to Obama seems quite humored about the look too. I keep wondering was Michelle thinks about her husband checking out the backside of a girl not much older than his daughters?

Maybe he liked her shoes?

Where have I been?

First off I would like to say I am very relaxed after my vacation away but very happy to be back to my computer and to my e-world. The beach was phenomenal but my kids are coming back tomorrow! I'm excited and just want everyone to know I'm back from the lack of a computer signal out there in beach world.